Wedding!

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I’ve been too crazy-busy with this and several other things to mention it before, but I got married on May 5. After five and a half years of living together as a committed couple, Christopher and I agreed that it was high time for all of our friends and family to meet up and have a big party!

We had the ceremony in the fantastic building where I have worked for six years. This is Kurth Hall, which we used for the ceremony.

Janet and Charles Mars presided. They are the High Priest and Priestess of the British Traditionalist coven that I attend. We aimed for a vague, non-denominational ceremony, so as not to stress out some of the more conservative family members – they were already dealing with a gay wedding, they didn’t need the culture shock of a full-on Wiccan ritual. My goal, was for people to walk out thinking, “Hmm… are they Unitarians? What was that?” while all our Wiccan friends nod sagely.

The ceremony was perfect; simple and moving, elegant and not too long. When Janet talked about love and commitment, people cried. When we found out that gluten-free rice crackers crunch *REALLY LOUD* in a quiet hall, people laughed.

Each of us had two attendants; Chris called them the Best Chicks and I referred to them as the Groomsmaids. My dance partner Jerod was our Impresario; he made sure that things happened, he ushed people, he kept the music playing.

LOTS of family came! I was very touched by the support. There were folks here that I haven’t seen in over a decade. I got to meet some members of Chris’s family that I’d never met before, including his dad and his brother in law.

There were SO many presents. This is only part of them – many came in by UPS, scattered over a couple of weeks before the ceremony. It was like Christmas every day, for a month. The thank you cards are almost all written.

We had the food catered by someone that I know through work; she did a beautiful job as always. Roasted chicken with long-grain and brown rice in a wine sauce, salad, and a mix of fruits, cheeses, and gluten-free crackers.

We had help from family and friends, but we did most of the decorating and organizing ourselves. Here’s Chris putting together flower arrangements. We went with silver and gold – to represent the years we’ve already had together, and the years we look forward to in the future.

This is one of the tables.

We were floored by the number of people who came! In front, a couple of our friends who have LiveJournals – I won’t name names here, but you know who you are.

Our friend Mark, who was bartending for us, had an announcement – his boyfriend George gave him a ring. We’re very happy for him – Mark is a wonderful person and deserves only good things.

Jaime was impressed.

We had the traditional first dance – Chris decided that it should be a fast waltz. It was beautiful, and fun. We wore boots. With handmade socks, no less!

Business with cake. My friend Nancy baked gluten-free cake for me, and Chris made the cool chocolate silkmoth that sat atop it. There was a big hazelnut cream white cake for folks who could eat it. They were both really tasty.

We originally planned to leave early, but it didn’t work out that way – so instead of people blowing bubbles at us as we left, they blew bubbles as we danced a last dance.

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  1. redcub
    redcub says:

    Beautiful couple, beautiful wedding, beautiful reception.

    Congradulations and may you have many, many more years of wedded bliss!

  7. hardvice
    hardvice says:

    Oh wow! Congratulations!

    The wedding looks absolutely beautiful. And I am so stealing the word “groomsmaids” when the time comes.

  9. sunflower_andi
    sunflower_andi says:

    OMG!!!! How exciting!!!!!

    Wow – two of my favorite couples have tied the knot this year!

    Congratulations and… dont forget me for the party! DARNIT!

  13. sola
    sola says:

    OH MY GOD. I hereby upbraid you utterly for not saying anything sooner.

    Big, big congratulations! It looks like it was a wonderful day, and you deserve no less. May all the best still be ahead of you.

  14. hugh_mannity
    hugh_mannity says:

    OMG!!!!11!!! SQUEEEEEE!!!

    You guys look wonderfully happy, the whole thing looks fantastic.

    I wish you lots and lots and lots of happy years together!

  18. admin
    admin says:

    Thanks!

    It’s not been a matter of secrecy or anything – I just have had so much on my brain! There were also some dicey family moments, and I wanted to hold off on the posting until it was all said and done, in the can, no takesy-backseys.

  19. admin
    admin says:

    Thanks!

    I don’t know if you’re going to be at Caterpillar Crawl this weekend, but if you are, I’ll see you there!

  25. shadowduchess
    shadowduchess says:

    Congratulations!!
    You two are beautiful together and may I wish you a great many long and happy years together in wedded bliss.
    The wedding looked gorgeous and I’m just so happy for you.
    Congratulations to your dear friend Mark too!

  27. jellybean71
    jellybean71 says:

    Oh fantastic! You and C look amazing together!

    A toast to the groom and groom. May you have many more millenia of true love and joy.

    Our love to you both.

    PS – I will be sending you something very special (once I make it and package it)

  29. samtosha
    samtosha says:

    Beautiful!!!!!!!!! Congratulations. Blondie and I have been together for four years and are considering something very similiar. May you have many happy years together!!!!!!!

  34. selkie_b
    selkie_b says:

    Oh SO MANY BLESSINGS! That’s wonderful! May you always find joy even in the most difficult of times.

    Love Light and Laughter

  39. pinkveneer
    pinkveneer says:

    ah, i’d been wondering where you were~missed your inspirational silky + such posts. nice to know you were away fro a happy reason. happy days to you both!

  50. mzwyndi
    mzwyndi says:

    You’re welcome.

    I’m all wedding-oriented right now, since I’m trying to plan one. I caught myself totally checking out your flowers and cake, thinking, “Hm…. I wonder…”

    😉

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